New to the lifestyle or just need a refresher? Our swingers glossary explains the most common swinging terms, lifestyle slang, and definitions you’ll encounter at events, in profiles, and forums.
A–C swingers glossary
- BBW: Big Beautiful Woman
- BC: Birth Control
- Bi-curious: Open to exploring same-sex play
- Bi-F: Bisexual female
- Bi-M: Bisexual male
- Bull: Single male who joins couples
- Cuckold: Man who enjoys watching his partner with others
- Cuckquean: Female version of a cuckold
- Closed Group: Private swinger circle or vetted event
- Clean: Free from STIs/STDs
- Clothing Optional: Nudity permitted but not required
D–F swingers glossary
- DP: Double Penetration
- DPP: Double Pussy Penetration
- DDF: Drug and Disease Free
- D/s: Dominance and submission dynamic
- ENM: Ethical Non-Monogamy
- Full Swap: Penetrative sex with another couple
- FWB: Friends With Benefits
- Fluffer: Someone who arouses others before play
G–L swingers glossary
- Gangbang: One person with multiple partners
- GFE: Girlfriend Experience
- Hall Pass: Permission to play solo
- Hard Swap: Full penetrative partner swap
- Hotwife: Woman who has sex with others with her partner’s consent
- HWP: Height Weight Proportionate
- LS: Lifestyle (short for the swinger community)
- Lifestyler: Someone active in swinging
- Limboing: Flirting without intending to play
- Laid Back: Easygoing; respectful of boundaries
M–P swingers glossary
- MFM/MMF: Threesome with two men and one woman
- MILF: Attractive older woman, often a mother
- Meet & Greet: Non-sexual social gathering
- MSR: Male Same Room (soft swap)
- Newbie: Someone new to the lifestyle
- Nudist: Enjoys nudity, not necessarily sexual
- NSA: No Strings Attached
- NSFW: Not Safe for Work (explicit content)
- One-on-One: Solo play with another person
- Open Relationship: Non-monogamous relationship with permission
Q–S swingers glossary
- Polyamory: Having multiple romantic relationships with consent
- Playroom: Designated sex space at clubs or events
- POV: Point Of View (common in adult videos)
- Resoft: Relaxing boundaries or rules during play
- Soft Swap: Sexual activity without penetration
- SS: Same Room Sex
- SSP: Separate Room Play
- Stag/Vixen: Man (stag) watches or shares female partner (vixen)
- Swap: Partner exchange for sex
- Swinger: Person involved in consensual non-monogamy
T–Z swingers glossary
- Topping from the bottom: Submissive controlling the dominant
- Unicorn: Single bi-female open to joining couples
- V-safe: Verified STI-free (tested)
- Voyeur: Enjoys watching sexual activity
- WSW: Woman Seeking Woman
- YMMV: Your Mileage May Vary — experiences differ by person
More Coming Soon
This post is part of an ongoing lifestyle series. Look out for future posts on swinger etiquette, party tips, safety, and communication guides.
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